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• Have you ever waited to see what you got before you decided what to give?
• Have you ever waited, wondering, why haven’t they even said thank you?
• Have you ever thought, I’ll give more later, when I have more?

If you have ever found yourself in one of the situations above, you may be unconsciously slowing down the flow of abundance in your life!

The universe operates through a dynamic exchange of giving and receiving which are different aspects of the same flow of energy. In fact, anything of value, multiplies when it is given. However, if you feel like you have lost something in the act of giving, it is really has not been given at all and will not increase. In addition, if you have given grudgingly, or with the expectation of receiving something in return, that giving has no energy and will not increase. It is the intention behind the giving that is key. Another key component of out flowing is the ability to receive because receiving is in fact, giving. Receiving is giving the gift of giving, to someone else.

Practicing this exchange of giving and receiving is quite simple. For example, if you want joy, start giving joy AND start receiving joy that others are offering to you.

Make a list of what you can begin to give and receive immediately.

A question that I get frequently is, “How can I get some else to change?”

The challenge for me with this question is how to have the person asking the question see that it would be more productive to adjust where they are looking. I usually like to prepare someone for the adjustment before asking them to adjust.

How I do this, is by first asking them to describe what is “wrong” with the other person. In other words, what would make the other person “better?” What does the other person seem to be “missing?” I let them spend as much time as they want on this part to get very clear on those points and solidify a good working plan for what they would want from someone else and what they seem to be missing.

We can move forward once we’re both very clear on what the problem is, for example, someone might say that person x is demanding, overly critical, and unwilling to hear my point of view.

They might say that what they are missing is understanding, acceptance, and openness.

Great – our next step is to look at ourselves, where in our lives are we being demeaning, overly critical, and unwilling to hear other’s point of view. Once we discover where we ourselves are being like that, re-enter those relationship with understanding, acceptance, and openness.

How does that get someone else to change, you ask. Well ultimately, we cannot “get” someone else to change, the best we can do, that I have found, is to give that for which we are looking. To my surprise and amazement, very often, that is exactly what is needed. Suddenly person x seems to no longer show up as demanding, overly critical, and unwilling to hear my point of view.

Therefore, getting someone else to change, in my experience, often requires adjusting where I am looking. So I offer the same coaching for you.

Challenge yourself to try it today!

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The challenge today is that parents are trying to get the best behavior out of their children possible while having to complete with outside influences, like TV, friends, and the internet. Following a few simple techniques will have kids repeating desired behaviors in no time.

• First, mirror back your child’s strengths back to them by appreciating them. Say, “I appreciate you for….” The trick here is to be specific. Being general and just saying I appreciate you won’t have the impact you’re looking for.
• Next, be sure you do this every day, at least once a day. Make it a habit, a natural, daily part of your communication with your son or daughter.
• Finally, be timely. Give appreciations as quickly as possible after you see a desired behavior. Better yet, appreciate while they’re doing what you want them to do.

Using these simple, yet effective techniques will have you creating desired results in no time.

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Do you wake up during the middle of the night thinking about everything you have to do or what you what forgot to finish?

Do you feel anxious or fearful that you won’t get it all done? 

Are you trying to finish it all before someone finds out that you haven’t handled something yet?  

Do you have this sense of dread hanging over you because you are sure that there is something that you’ve forgotten to do? 

Are you exhausted just thinking about everything that needs to get done, so you don’t do anything!

If any of these scenarios sounds like you, you are not alone.  It’s common that I speak with people who are feeling overwhelmed.  Their jobs are more demanding than ever, their families seems to be getting busier and busier by the day, and not to mention, their extended families are wondering why they haven’t called!  Whew!  I feel their overwhelm just listening to it them describe it.  Fortunately, there is something that you can do to begin to turn this around. 

The first and most important thing that I advise my clients is to refuel themselves.  They cannot give unless they are fueled up themselves.  Even if it seems like they can’t fit another thing in, especially if it’s not already on the To-Do list, do it.  I urge them to carve out a space of time to spend with and for themselves; something that they love to do.  Not only will they enjoy doing something that they love, they often re-emerge with boundless energy and can handle and tackle everything on their To-Do List.

So remember, if you want to be able to give your all, give to yourself!   

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I recently met someone through Twitter and even though he barely knew me, he GAVE to me because he saw that we might have a synergy.  He, without hesitation, gave inbound links to my blog.  He didn’t know whether or not he would receive any back, and gave anyway. 

Wow! 

So I ask myself the question: Have I provided inbound links to everyone I know?  Answer: No.  This virtual stranger, now friend, didn’t even think twice before saying here Cathy, my gift to you!  As I think about it, I notice that I have provided inbound links to some of my friends, but I have not considered giving to complete strangers before.  Why not?  What about ALL of my friends and acquaintances and not just some?  I don’t know!  I’m not sure!  Todd Weiss brought value to me without knowing for certain whether I could or would bring value to him.

My lesson for today begs the question, “Am I giving?”  Am I participating in the cycle of abundance by giving and receiving in as many opportunities as possible?  Am I giving a pinch or is the giving oozing and overflowing out of who I am being?  Am I waiting for the “right” moment to give?  Am I making my giving conditional?  Am I waiting to see what I get before I give fully?  Am I giving and then thinking, that’s enough for you, and that’s enough for you, and that’s enough for you…? 

My mind is being flooded with so many people in my life – time to get busy giving!