Allow yourself to want what you want. Make decisions, declare what you want, and then go do it. When you wait for people around you to make decisions, which don’t get me wrong, can sometimes be full of fun and an adventure, you unconsciously send the message to yourself that you, and what you want, is not important and does not matter.

You are important, you are brimming with things you want to do, and you do matter!

Let yourself know how much you love, honor, respect, and appreciate yourself by allowing yourself to want the things you want.

You can be giving and allow others to want what they want, but don’t do it at the expense of not allowing yourself the gift of giving to you ~ do it in addition to loving you.

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I’m not even sure what that word means!  It seems to me that either you’re going to do it or you’re not.  Using the word try comes across to me as an excuse and an unwillingness not to commit either way.

I see it as a fundamental lack of commitment which also points to a lack of trust.  It’s as if you don’t trust your own ability to get it done or come through, so you’re unwilling to commit.  It’s like giving yourself wiggle room.

Sure, you can spend your life justifying how busy you are and how many very important things you must do, but when it comes down to it, you are already making a choice of doing or not doing in every moment.

I feel like screaming,  “Quit pretending that you might do something and stop using the word try!”

Not because it’s offensive, dismissive, and patronizing to the person you gave your non-committal use of the word “try” to ~ but rather because every time you do, you undermine your own ability to trust yourself.

When you trust and honor who you are as a person, you begin to stand with confidence in being able to declare what you want moment by moment and you make no apologies for your choices.

Stand with confidence by integrating the following practices:

• Honor yourself (and others) by honoring your choices; the things that you committed to do!
• Honor yourself (and others) by declaring what you will and will not do!
• Honor yourself (and others) by trusting that what you want is important, valuable, and worthwhile!
• Honor yourself (and others) by removing the word “try” from your vocabulary!